With Theo's second birthday looming, I've been thinking about all the things I hope for him as he gets older.
Before having a child, I had very different thoughts and feelings like most people do with zero experience. I couldn't understand the need to take pictures of kissing your kids on the lips, sharing a bed, why mums didn't want to head out every once in a while for some alone time and why, when children cried, they weren't left to self soothe.
I've read many a book along with now having my own little human to raise and I couldn't be more the contradiction. He's never slept anywhere overnight, often shares the HUGE (not...) space between my husband and I in bed and I view crying it out as cruel and unnecessary. In fact my profile picture on most social media was of me smooching his little, wee face off!
But when I think about him growing up, facing this big, unknown world alone there's so much I want for him and so many things I want him to know.
I want him to know that no matter what his choices in life, as long as they are not reckless and harmful, we will support him. We'll love him, never put unnecessary pressure on him and never force him to do something he really doesn't want to do or doesn't enjoy.
I hope that he sees the beauty in every day, that what's important to him is seeing what the world has to offer and that money and material items don't fuel his life. In the same breath, if he wants some of the finer things, nice cars, a big house, for all his hard work then that's okay too.
I want him to be confident in his own self worth and his own abilities, not to let anyone tell him that he can't do something if he wants to. I never want another person's insecurities to affect his life and how he feels about himself.
I hope that he is compassionate, sympathetic and loving. I want him to know how important it is to show others that you care, to always remember that other people are fighting internal battles that we know nothing about and that a person's race, gender, size, belief, sexual orientation should not influence how they are treated.
What I really want is for him to be happy in life. And to remember that we will be there for him no matter what! For him to avoid worrying and live every day as if it was his last! We are on this earth for such a small amount of time and I hope that he has somebody to love deeply, and that loves him the same, a strong head and a giant heart. Simple hey?